Domestic violence: How to speak out if you’re not a victim

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I have never been a victim of domestic violence and for that, I am truly and immeasurably grateful. I can only imagine the pain and suffering, but I know those thoughts are but an ill-formed shadow of what real victims endure, and unlike these brave women, my thoughts can be switched off.

October is domestic violence awareness month. I’ve read some truly powerful posts over the last few weeks from incredibly strong and brave women who have been victims of domestic abuse. I am in awe of these women who have the strength to go through something so traumatic, and come out the other side with the guts to speak about it and, in doing so, help others.

I shan’t pretend to truly understand, because it’s something you must experience to know. But what I can do is add my voice to the throng, and I urge you to do the same, even if you have never been a victim.

  • There is no justification for domestic violence.
  • The perpetrator is the only person to blame.
  • It is up to every human being to stand up and stop it.
  • It is up to us all to minimise the risk by raising our children to practice respect and empathy

You might not have your own experience to share, but you can still stand up alongside victims and shout loud to show your support, and to inform the world about what needs to change.

Below are some posts you can share to spread awareness about domestic violence. Take on board their messages, and join me in spreading the word.


“Abuse thrives only in silence”

– Leslie Morgan Steiner


If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, and needs support:

In the UK you can call the 24-hour National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline on:

0808 2000 247

And in the United States, call the 24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline on:

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)


Huge thanks to Kelly, aka Daydreamer Mum for helping with this post. Kelly writes very candidly about her experiences of domestic violence, and about being a mum of three, on her blog. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.

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